Therapy as a couple or alone?
Usually, the idea to seek counselling in a relationship crisis comes from only one of the partners. While one partner may have the desire to save the relationship, the other may have already made the decision to leave. Therefore, it is important that both partners are motivated to make chances and look for a chance together.
In some cases, the problems of the couple are clearly the problems of one partner. This also needs to be discussed together. In such cases, the focus of the work is the individual, and couples sessions can be a part of that. It also happens that one person is stuck in an unhappy relationship out of fear or helplessness. Here psychotherapy can be a way to liberation.
Before therapy begins, expectations, formalities and appointments are discussed with the psychotherapist by phone or email. Experience shows that most couples therapy involves one, two or three sessions, three to five weeks apart. Only in rare cases do couples decide to engage in a process of more than five sessions. Generally, couples sessions take place during the week in the evening. However, in some circumstances, a Saturday afternoon appointment can be arranged. You must assume that the session length of 50 minutes will be exceeded in most cases, so a session will last 1 ½ - 2 hrs.